I am pretty sure, we all know why we don’t get along with our parents, respectively. We all know that on topic that can get everyone roused up and disagreeing. But we know how to disagree right? And our parents take it a little too personal? They start using lines like “I am your mother you cannot talk to me like that”, “under my roof, under my rules”. Meanwhile, all you said was that you do not like to eat peas.

Maybe it’s your fault

Obviously, it is not always as simple as that. Sometimes we argue about bigger issues. But parents cant meet us halfway. They won’t hear us because they have already set a point in their minds and they just won’t listen or understand. Even if you speak in a gentle voice, even if you stay calm. The fact that you brought up an issue means you’re acting grown and you’re now disrespectful.

The lost child

And we close off, that kind of behaviour that our parents exhibit causes us to stop pursuing a relationship with them. I saw a meme that said “parents be like they know everything about you and it is just lore from when you were 9 that hasn’t been updated” or something like that. And that’s because simple communication with them is hard. It can be so difficult for you to open up to them when you do not know how they will react.

“In this broken home, everyone becomes predictable”

And sometimes their reaction is just predictable so you know it is best to avoid them. They lack the empathy and the open mind to finally relate or understand us. They go with an authoritative mindset, “you are a child and I am the adult, a conversation is backchatting or talking back, and that is blatant disrespect”.

We don’t talk anymore

There are so many parents who do not have relationships with their children because they simply cannot talk. It seems like such a small/minor thing, yet it seems impossible for our parents. They cannot even make us feel heard. And sometimes, when it feels like they heard us, when they allow us to open up and be vulnerable, they break that trust and use the information against us.

Be empathetic

And maybe we are supposed to be gracious; it is their first time being parents. But it is my first time being a child too, I do not expect you to just change the way you think, but at least grasp where I am coming from. Sometimes it is our tone of voice and how we say stuff, but most times it isn’t.

We are always arguing

Somehow, we just end up with an altercation, which is just completely unnecessary, and then they never apologise, but you just have to go on living like nothing happened because “that’s how they are”. That’s the grace we extend, but we are never seen, even when other kids are worse than us, we never feel appreciated.

The lost art of arguing/debating

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Conculsion

Oh, how hard it is to be a child with a stubborn parent. Sometimes you’re just trying to explain that some food just does not taste good, but you are met with “in my days/age”. I guess we never evolve.